Who gets custody of the children? Many people come to us with a misunderstanding of what “custody” means. In the family law context, custody does not refer to who the children will live with; it actually refers to decision-making for the children. In “joint custody” situations, both parents have an equal say when it comes to major decisions that must be made regarding the children’s health, education, or general well being. The children may reside primarily with one parent, but when it comes to decision-making, each parent is equally involved….